Sunday, 07 March 2010 21:43

A tribute to women on Women’s Day

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“God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers” -Jewish Proverb

This is a very popular saying but instead of mother I would like to replace the word with women. When a girl child is born into this earth she has to play either the role of a mother, daughter, sister or a wife. No matter what the role, she undergoes lot of problems either physically or mentally. When she’s a daughter, she has to face all the restrictions that are endorsed upon her. When she’s a sister, she has to be all goodie and set an example to others if she is elder and not be fussy if she is younger. When she’s a wife, she has to face the problems of her in-laws and also in turn expected to be dedicated. When she’s a mother, she has to shift from the corporate office to changing nappies. Apparently, when she’s old, she has to take care of her children and grand children. When will she be free and unchained from these restrictions set upon her by the society?

In India, women have faced lot of social problems in the past and continue to face even now. Perhaps, going through a sociology text book will be self-explanatory. But let me do justice by stating the problems that women face - female infanticide, child labour, illiteracy, domestic violence, dowry, rape, divorce, sexual harassment, low salary, torture by in-laws, forced abortion, forced marriage, gender discrimination and so on. All these rob from her the right to lead an independent life without hindrance. Not to forget some universal psychological problems like premenstrual syndrome, premenstrual dysphonic disorder and post partum depression and physical like puberty, monthly cycles, pregnancy and menopause also senility at old age. All these cause mental disturbance, stress and fluctuation of moods. Nevertheless, she is amalgamated with problems from womb to tomb. One strong quality of women is that they are emotionally well built and can easily give vent to their feelings. Maybe that is what makes them so strong and endure any obstacle coming their way.


Recently, I watched an Afghani movie about a girl who disguises herself as a boy in order to earn money for the livelihood of her family. The movie portrayed the life of this girl and generally the life of women in that country. I was shattered after watching the movie because the women were treated inhumanly and weren’t given work or education and had to stay inside their respective homes. My immediate response to this movie was, “Thank God! I was born in India”.

Today, India has widened its horizon regarding women and their issues by trying to uplift them in every field be it science, commerce, economy, politics, sports, education, arts and so on. The very names of these women - Indira Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Sonia Gandhi, P.T.Usha, Latha Mangeshwar, Kalpana Chawla, Sunitha Williams, Asha Bhonsle, Aishwarya Rai, Pratibha Patil, Deepa Mehta, Nanditha Das, show that women have excelled in every field and have been empowered today in every way. Women’s oppression and inequality has spurred them to become more vocal and active in campaigning for change. Tormented and subjugated through all times and ages, women have fought their way against exploitation, harassment and have secured themselves a right in the public domain. In spite of exploitation and abuse, both in domestic and work sector, women have managed to achieve milestones in education, have financially become independent and feel empowered today by fighting for their rights.

Moreover, these days the topic Gender equality has been included as a part of Syllabus in schools and colleges. And this tells us that women are not lesser or inferior to men. Instead, they are equal on par with men. What is important is both are human beings. Why should one be considered inferior to other? Both are created equally therefore demands equal rights.

Nevertheless, women’s essence lies in her innate ability to care, love and sacrifice for the other. She not only plays the character of a mother, daughter, sister and wife but also a friend, nurturer, guide and partner. She displays wonderful range of emotions from being patient to courageous at times of crises. Out of 365 days, we have dedicated one day to her and would it be too much to ask all men to suspend judgment , acknowledge and appreciate the love and support that she has showered on them in all times? On the occasion of International Women’s Day-8 March which is a global day for celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women’s past, present and future, let us all salute them . Jai Ho!

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Like [0]Dislike [0] #13 , Mangalore2010-03-14
Yeah. you are right. Men and women have their own strengths and weaknesses. Even men have problems which are not disclosed because they are expected to solve them by themselves. Therefore, even if we try to bring equality, it's all in vain. Each person has to look at himself because each one is unique. Both men and women should work together to fight for their rights. It's not only the women.
Like [1]Dislike [0] #12 , Kualalumpur2010-03-14
Well written crystal... this article has highlighted the reality that exists in this world... do keep up ur good job...
Like [1]Dislike [0] #11 , Saudi Arabia2010-03-10
‘Movies show only those things which director wants to show and director shows only those things which mass wants to see’. Same applies to that Afgani movie. I do agree for some extent those things are still exist (not in cultured world) but it exists everywhere, not only in particular religion for example in some African tribal areas, but if director bases his story on those areas it won’t earn money and it won’t go to Oscars and it same applies to writers too.

One more this always makes me think is “what is woman exploitation”? why particular religion always gets blame for it?.

I always wonder why Woman gets half of money what men get in sports (tennis for example) where spectators and TRP rate is high for their matches? (Might be for some other reasons but it’s out of context)

I have some questions can anybody clears it for me?

why in most of the movies man wears full suit where woman wears micro mini when shooting is going on in freezing weather ?, why woman wear bikini in toothpaste adds ? why only woman cloths gets malfunctioning in fashion shows?, why female models always has zero figure ? why female actresses shows their body in Red carpet when male wears full suite ? and many more

Is these all to show woman just as sex symbol? Or is this the real woman’s exploitation?

Answers are still unknown.
Like [0]Dislike [0] #10 , mangalore/ksa2010-03-10
Movies are made to get money,awards,name and fame.They can not solve problems of the society.Yes,they can create troubles, especially in India ,if any thing shown against a religious culture or ritual.Even a statement by a filmstar is sufficient to create trouble.Can we say women walk on the ramp wearing awkward dresses and bikini is her liberation !I am not defending Afghan culture.There are crazy people black sheeps in every religion.In islam women are not suppressed ,they are encouraged to do whatever with certain restrictions and limitations.Finally the writer should have mentioned the name of famous writer who accepted islam in the evening of her life.
Like [2]Dislike [0] #9 , Mangalore2010-03-09
True that a woman is a treasure. But aren't men too? both have their own positive and negative characters. Women themselves cannopt tolerate each other in many cases,what to expect from men then? Of late, men are tortured by women and not vice versa. Well I am not objecting to anyone here, but just trying to say that both the genders have to respect each other for what they are and what they are not
Like [0]Dislike [0] #8 , Mangalore2010-03-09
The responsibility of Mothers (women) cannot be undermined in this age. The success of a household and its members depends on the women and this should be understood and appreciated.
Like [3]Dislike [0] #7 , Mangalore2010-03-09
I totally concur with you on this. Men and Women however aren't equal, both physically as well as psychologically. They are different, and so we don't expect them to be treated equally. Men and Women are treated differently wherever you see. That's a fact! Western attitude towards women hadn't changed until few 70 years! This so-called 'women's reservation bill' played out in Lok Sabha and Rajya Sabha today is only a show of tokenism. A lot needs to be desired in changing the age old outdated attitudes of our society... until then, it just going to be pen and debate. I think women are stronger in some aspects than men and vice-versa. The truth is, a man and a woman complement each other. (Yin and Yang)
Great insight Crystal! Please do continue to write more articles. I just can't wait for the next! Thanks CD for publishing this.
Like [0]Dislike [0] #6 , mng2010-03-09
well written article...crystal.keep it up
Like [1]Dislike [0] #5 , Mangalore2010-03-08
The article was quite interesting but do not understand the reference of movie on Afghanistan came in between. Anyway, we always fail to understand the realities of ground which is quite different than what we hear and see in the international media. We have to understand that we see and hear only those which they wanted us to see, hear and believe. Therefore, be very careful on conspiracy theories.

Regarding the equality there is no doubt that God has given equal rights to male and female including other species but it is also true that all our rights and equality by nature defers. Rather than being emotional on subject we shall know or accept the fact that male and female (whether it is human or animal) they are physically different, mentally different and biologically different which i’m not telling but science proves it. However, we all are in purpose equal and womans position is very high in the sight of Allah (God) as example given by Br.Ahmed from the Hadith of Prophet. Yes it is also true that woman have faced social problems in the past and still continue in almost all parts and section of our society and world. We if we work together as God has commanded us Inshallah (god willing) future will be bright and prosperous for all.
Like [0]Dislike [0] #4 , mangalore2010-03-08
Nice article crystal, i wish you to write more and more articles. Thank you CD for publishing the nice articles.
Like [0]Dislike [0] #3 , Jubail, K.S.A2010-03-08
Nice article Ms. CRYSTAL MARIA ANDRADE.. We look forward such a nice article in future too..N Thanks CD for publishing the nice articles.
Like [2]Dislike [0] #2 , mangalore2010-03-08
nice article crystal

however there are a few things that i want you to consider...

Although men and women are creations of Almighty, by nature, they are designed for certain specific roles.Only a woman can be a mother. One cannot expect the man to play the role of the mother. And as a mother, she needs to be respected. When a person asked Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)who he should revere most, the Prophet (pbuh) replied - Mother. He asked then who? The prohet (pbuh) replied- mother. He asked again, then who? The prophet (pbuh) again replied 'mother'. He asked yet again- 'Then who?', the Prophet (pbuh) replied then father. 3 times the Prophet (pbuh) said mother deserves greater reverence and the fourth time he said father. As Dr Zakir Naik says, in Islam, the mother gets the gold medal, the silver medal, as well as the bronze medal and the father has to be satisfied with the consolation prize!

The duties of women and their various roles should be treated with respect and not seen as a burden or a matter of stress or imposed restriction. And its not that men dont have problems. They too have their own set of problems and to say that only women are suffering would be rather vague.

Thirdly, as far as your impression of the Afghan movie is concerned. Even in India, even today, greater ill-treatments meted out to women exist. I too am not in favour of the acts showed in that movie. But after all its a movie. I suggest u to read this article -
Like [1]Dislike [0] #1 , RE: A tribute to women on Women’s Day2010-03-07
Well written, thanks for providing indepth and precise explanation about the subject matter. Thanks CD for bringing us such an article.

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